Posts by Lori Simms

This Could Be Why You Feel Lost After a Breakup

Who are you if you’re not in a relationship? This is the core question of the post-breakup identity crisis that can leave us feeling like we’re going off the rails. It can also be what causes us to try to rekindle romances that definitely should have stayed cold. While we may think that our sadness…

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Exploring the “Just Friends” Myth After a Breakup

Does being “just friends” after a breakup ever work? According to a YouGov poll, 37% of Americans say that they’d like to remain friends with an ex if they broke up. Additionally, 31% said they’d want to stay friends even if the ex was the one to end the relationship. In both cases, men were…

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Why Establishing New Routines After a Breakup Is Important

Post-breakup you is a completely new person. It’s important to acknowledge that a relationship has left us changed. It’s also important to devote time to ourselves as we come to learn what shedding a relationship means for the future. That’s why establishing new routines after a breakup as part of the emotional recovery process can…

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Feeling Down and Disconnected? It Might Be December Burnout

Why aren’t I in a good mood even though the holidays are here? It could be end-of-year burnout. End-of-year deadlines, pressures to find the perfect gifts for loved ones, family stress, and endless social gatherings can all crash down on you. Let’s be real. Burnout can happen at any time of the year. However, there’s…

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How to Navigate Pacing in a New Dating Relationship

Anyone being in a new dating relationship can relate to the sense of urgency that builds up when you share a strong attraction. However, some dating experts believe that doing anything other than taking it slow is the fast route to heartbreak. How do you navigate pacing in a relationship? Here’s a look at the…

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The Pros and Cons of Thinking of Dating as an Evaluation Process

Should you be taking a more scientific approach to dating? While finding love is a matter of the heart, some people are moving toward a strategy of evaluation in order to find a compatible mate. Should you be thinking of dating as an evaluation process instead of relying on emotions to make decisions? Here’s a…

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Don’t Confuse Red Flags With Quirks

Can you tell the difference between warning signs and harmless quirks? It’s not always easy. When we’re dating with an open mind, we want to leave room for accepting little quirks or habits that make a person who they are. In fact, encountering someone who is “too perfect” can make us question if a potential…

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How Neurology Can Save Relationships

Is your brain the best tool you have to save your relationship? While we often think of love as a matter of the heart, the pattern-recognition mechanisms of the brain actually help to determine how we see, experience, and relate to others. When we don’t understand how responses to perceived patterns drive our behaviors, we…

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The Magic Ratio That’s Defining Your Relationship

Did you know that there’s a magic ratio for every relationship? According to research, we all need a specific balance of positive and negative interactions with our partners in order to feel satisfied. It should come as no surprise that the number of positive interactions needs to be much higher compared to the number of…

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Is This the Relationship Dynamic That Leads to the Most Pain?

Does the emotional intimacy in your relationship feel imbalanced? You may be tangled up in a pursuer-distancer dynamic. This is a frustrating place to be for a couple because both partners feel chronically dissatisfied with the level of intimacy being shared. For the pursuer, feelings of distance and disconnection cause insecurity. For the distancer, there…

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