Posts by Lori Simms
Why You Should Consider Going Public With Your Relationship Status
Today many people place a great deal of importance on publicly disclosing their relationship status on the internet. However, others wonder why we should even care whether everyone knows the state of our relationships. While you may not necessarily need to profess your love for your partner by shouting it on the rooftops, there are…
Read MoreDiscover the Mindsets That Could Be Keeping You Single
Technology has opened the doors to endless opportunities for genuine romantic connections. However, there are still plenty of challenges that come along with widening the dating pool. You may be wondering what you’re doing wrong if you find yourself single more often than you’d like. Here, we’ll discuss two common dating mindsets that may significantly…
Read MoreWhy Do People Ghost? How To Cope When This Happens to You
Although a relatively new term, ghosting occurs frequently in the world of dating. Sometimes people ghost others because they think it’s a way to have a “clean break,” especially if the chemistry isn’t there. However, going silent only leaves the other person feeling confused about what went wrong. Following are several reasons why ghosting happens…
Read MoreAre You Experiencing True Love or Limerence?
Everyone has felt that spark that occurs when you’re around someone who makes your heart race. These feelings often give way to the start of a healthy romance. However, sometimes, what you’re experiencing isn’t true love, but limerence instead. What Is Limerence? Nearly everyone has experienced limerence. Limerence refers to the feelings you have when…
Read MoreThe 3 Stages of Love According to Neuroscience
Like thirst and hunger, love is essential for human survival. It can be hard for us to understand love. For thousands of years, researchers have been trying to understand how love works. Neuroscientists studying love have finally come closer to understanding how it works. Neuroscience has identified three stages of love. Understanding the stages of…
Read MoreBids For Connection: How They Can Strengthen Your Relationship
You’ve probably heard plenty of stories about what you shouldn’t do in relationships —from love bombing to gaslighting. But, what can you do in your relationship to cultivate a healthy connection? One important thing is to pay attention to bids for connection. What Are Bids For Connection? Termed by the Gottman Institute, a bid for…
Read MoreThe Emotional Costs of Maintaining Contact With Exes
Are you stuck in an endless breakup? Having a heart in limbo is the price many of us pay when we decide to maintain contact with an ex. While we may think that keeping in touch will help us to avoid the stinging pain of a breakup, the truth is that the slow, painful goodbye…
Read MoreAre You Avoiding Defining Your Relationship
Is it time to have the DTR talk with a partner? The “define the relationship” talk has become a hot issue amid the rise of situationships and casual dating. Modern daters can easily grow quite intimate with another person without actually knowing if things are exclusive, just for fun, or something in the middle. While…
Read MoreIs Your Ex Hoovering You?
Don’t allow yourself to get hoovered in your next relationship! Hoovering is the reddest of flags when dealing with partners with narcissistic tendencies. It’s a form of emotional abuse that insecure and manipulative partners use to try to stop you from leaving. In this post, I’ll lay down the basics on hoovering. I’ll also tell…
Read MoreThe Technique to Instantly Stop Arguments in Your Relationship
I can’t stop recommending the “softened start-up” technique for communication to my clients! Based on the work of John Gottman, this incredible tool has helped so many clients to finally start communicating effectively with their partners. I find it to be effective, disarming, and perfect for addressing hard topics without feelings of emotional heaviness and…
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