Breakups

The Emotional Costs of Maintaining Contact With Exes

Are you stuck in an endless breakup? Having a heart in limbo is the price many of us pay when we decide to maintain contact with an ex. While we may think that keeping in touch will help us to avoid the stinging pain of a breakup, the truth is that the slow, painful goodbye…

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Is Your Ex Hoovering You?

Don’t allow yourself to get hoovered in your next relationship! Hoovering is the reddest of flags when dealing with partners with narcissistic tendencies. It’s a form of emotional abuse that insecure and manipulative partners use to try to stop you from leaving. In this post, I’ll lay down the basics on hoovering. I’ll also tell…

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How to Stop a Breakup From Hurting Your Mental Health

We aren’t taught to grieve breakups properly. The advice we’re given is to get over it, get out of the house to meet someone new, and get on with life. In reality, we need to both tend to and honor the deep wound left behind by a breakup. This applies to both tumultuous and amicable…

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Hack Your Brain to Get Over a Breakup

They weren’t kidding when they said breaking up is hard to do. Breakups devastate us because we feel like we’re losing access to a person we need in order to be happy. We’re not just letting go of a person. We’re letting go of our expectations, reliving traumatic messages from childhood that told us we’re…

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