Breakups

This Could Be Why You Feel Lost After a Breakup

Who are you if you’re not in a relationship? This is the core question of the post-breakup identity crisis that can leave us feeling like we’re going off the rails. It can also be what causes us to try to rekindle romances that definitely should have stayed cold. While we may think that our sadness…

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Exploring the “Just Friends” Myth After a Breakup

Does being “just friends” after a breakup ever work? According to a YouGov poll, 37% of Americans say that they’d like to remain friends with an ex if they broke up. Additionally, 31% said they’d want to stay friends even if the ex was the one to end the relationship. In both cases, men were…

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The Emotional Costs of Maintaining Contact With Exes

Are you stuck in an endless breakup? Having a heart in limbo is the price many of us pay when we decide to maintain contact with an ex. While we may think that keeping in touch will help us to avoid the stinging pain of a breakup, the truth is that the slow, painful goodbye…

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Is Your Ex Hoovering You?

Don’t allow yourself to get hoovered in your next relationship! Hoovering is the reddest of flags when dealing with partners with narcissistic tendencies. It’s a form of emotional abuse that insecure and manipulative partners use to try to stop you from leaving. In this post, I’ll lay down the basics on hoovering. I’ll also tell…

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How to Stop a Breakup From Hurting Your Mental Health

We aren’t taught to grieve breakups properly. The advice we’re given is to get over it, get out of the house to meet someone new, and get on with life. In reality, we need to both tend to and honor the deep wound left behind by a breakup. This applies to both tumultuous and amicable…

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Hack Your Brain to Get Over a Breakup

They weren’t kidding when they said breaking up is hard to do. Breakups devastate us because we feel like we’re losing access to a person we need in order to be happy. We’re not just letting go of a person. We’re letting go of our expectations, reliving traumatic messages from childhood that told us we’re…

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