Conflict

The Technique to Instantly Stop Arguments in Your Relationship

I can’t stop recommending the “softened start-up” technique for communication to my clients! Based on the work of John Gottman, this incredible tool has helped so many clients to finally start communicating effectively with their partners. I find it to be effective, disarming, and perfect for addressing hard topics without feelings of emotional heaviness and…

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How Covert Narcissists Operate in Relationships

What does everyone need to know about narcissism and romantic relationships? The blanket term “narcissist” covers both covert and overt narcissists. As a therapist, I can tell you that the damage done by covert narcissists can often be more severe simply because connecting the signs can take longer. While you may feel that something is…

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Should You Fear the Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse?

Can you really predict which couples will get divorced? As a therapist, I’m hesitant to embrace any ideology about relationships that paints couples with a broad brush. However, certain relationship dynamics can actually be telltale signs that a split is coming. Dr. John Gottman referred to these signs as the “Four Horsemen” for relationships. The…

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Are You Suffering From Relationship Burnout?

Starting the new year is a natural time to reflect on your romantic life. There’s no doubt that your relationship will be part of the audit if you’re taking time to reflect on the highs and lows of the past 12 months. If you’re finding yourself reluctant to replay highlights from your relationship this year,…

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