Couples Therapy

The Magic Ratio That’s Defining Your Relationship

Did you know that there’s a magic ratio for every relationship? According to research, we all need a specific balance of positive and negative interactions with our partners in order to feel satisfied. It should come as no surprise that the number of positive interactions needs to be much higher compared to the number of…

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Why You Should Consider Going Public With Your Relationship Status

Today many people place a great deal of importance on publicly disclosing their relationship status on the internet. However, others wonder why we should even care whether everyone knows the state of our relationships. While you may not necessarily need to profess your love for your partner by shouting it on the rooftops, there are…

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Is Your Ex Hoovering You?

Don’t allow yourself to get hoovered in your next relationship! Hoovering is the reddest of flags when dealing with partners with narcissistic tendencies. It’s a form of emotional abuse that insecure and manipulative partners use to try to stop you from leaving. In this post, I’ll lay down the basics on hoovering. I’ll also tell…

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The Technique to Instantly Stop Arguments in Your Relationship

I can’t stop recommending the “softened start-up” technique for communication to my clients! Based on the work of John Gottman, this incredible tool has helped so many clients to finally start communicating effectively with their partners. I find it to be effective, disarming, and perfect for addressing hard topics without feelings of emotional heaviness and…

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Rebuilding After Infidelity

Discovering that your partner has cheated can shake your world. It’s not just that cheating rips your heart out. Cheating is a revelation that requires you to make a big choice. If you’ve decided to forgive, it’s important to go “all in” with forgiveness instead of holding on to the hurt and anger. In my…

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Do Changes in Intimacy and Sexual Desire Spell Trouble?

Is the relationship over just because desire has dipped? Let’s not get ahead of ourselves. In reality, physical intimacy and sexual desire can ebb and flow during the course of a long-term relationship. Of course, it’s also important to examine if your physical or mental health could be suppressing your desire and connection with your…

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Avoid These Five Communication Blunders in Your Relationship

Why does communication break down so easily for couples? Most of us carry common habits into our communication styles without even knowing that we’re sowing seeds of hurt, distrust, and miscommunication. Discovering our communication mistakes is freeing because it allows us to escape cycles that have left us feeling frustrated for so long! How do…

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This Is the Love Lesson Every Therapist Wishes You Knew

Therapists aren’t exactly supposed to spill the tea. However, there is one lesson that is so essential for couples that I feel it must be shared with everyone both inside and outside of my office! I’m talking about a not-so-little thing called differentiation. Have you ever noticed the way we love to give celebrity couples…

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