Dating
Here’s Why Your Brain Can’t Quit That Boomerang Relationship
Are you caught in a boomerang relationship? From a therapist’s standpoint, things that “come back” after you let them go don’t always come back because they belong to you. It’s more likely that you’re stuck in an unhealthy cycle. You keep getting back together in the hopes that you’ll finally get in sync this time…
Read MoreLove Bombing Is the Dating Red Flag You Need to Know About
Have you ever had someone make it clear that they’ve fallen in love with you on a first date? Don’t trust it. They were probably love bombing you. While some people really do know that they’ve found “the one” at first glance, the truth is that love at first sight is rare. What’s more, a…
Read MoreThe Strange Trend of Constantly Questioning Your Relationship
Are you constantly questioning your relationship more than you think you should be? You’re not alone. Social media is making it hard to feel satisfied. Being bombarded with pictures of perfect relationships makes it hard to know what the “real deal” is even supposed to look like these days. However, constantly questioning your relationship could…
Read MoreLove at First Sight? Is It Nothing More Than a Fairy Tale?
Many people believe in the idea of the “fairy tale” romance and “love at first sight.” It would be so thrilling to come across “the one” while waiting in line for our morning coffee or during our morning commute. It would certainly take the work out of dating, being rejected, and dealing with the uncertainties…
Read MoreTips From a Psychologist: How To Cope With Rejection
Everyone experiences a breakup at some point in their lives. It happens within a new relationship, or you’ve been together for a while. Rejection hurts, and no one enjoys breaking up. It’s essential to allow yourself time to grieve. However, it’s equally important to lean on your support system and develop healthy coping strategies to…
Read MoreThere’s a Dating App for Your Attachment Style
Do you know your dating attachment style? Finding a perfect match can be impossible if you don’t. Attachment style refers to the “way” you bond with a romantic partner. It’s believed that our attachment preferences are formed in childhood based on interactions with our caregivers. I’m going to show you how to use the right…
Read MoreA Psychologist Spills the Truth on Dating Outside Your Type
Should you date outside your type? First, declaring that you have a “type” in the first place can pigeonhole you into overlooking potential partners based on superficial traits. While it’s common for us to gravitate toward people with specific qualities, being attracted to one “archetype” doesn’t necessarily mean we’re pursuing relationships with compatible partners. Science…
Read MoreHack Your Brain to Get Over a Breakup
They weren’t kidding when they said breaking up is hard to do. Breakups devastate us because we feel like we’re losing access to a person we need in order to be happy. We’re not just letting go of a person. We’re letting go of our expectations, reliving traumatic messages from childhood that told us we’re…
Read MoreBefore You Delete the Dating Apps (Again) Try This Dating Method
As a psychologist in private practice, I hear a lot of complaints about online dating. My clients have been ghosted, catfished, breadcrumbed, disappointed, and discouraged. Many have also found love, friendship, interesting conversation, and connection. Modern dating is tough and it’s challenging to date in a way that feels healthy and authentic. Below is a…
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