Relationships

This Could Be Why You Feel Lost After a Breakup

Who are you if you’re not in a relationship? This is the core question of the post-breakup identity crisis that can leave us feeling like we’re going off the rails. It can also be what causes us to try to rekindle romances that definitely should have stayed cold. While we may think that our sadness…

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Exploring the “Just Friends” Myth After a Breakup

Does being “just friends” after a breakup ever work? According to a YouGov poll, 37% of Americans say that they’d like to remain friends with an ex if they broke up. Additionally, 31% said they’d want to stay friends even if the ex was the one to end the relationship. In both cases, men were…

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How to Navigate Pacing in a New Dating Relationship

Anyone being in a new dating relationship can relate to the sense of urgency that builds up when you share a strong attraction. However, some dating experts believe that doing anything other than taking it slow is the fast route to heartbreak. How do you navigate pacing in a relationship? Here’s a look at the…

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How Neurology Can Save Relationships

Is your brain the best tool you have to save your relationship? While we often think of love as a matter of the heart, the pattern-recognition mechanisms of the brain actually help to determine how we see, experience, and relate to others. When we don’t understand how responses to perceived patterns drive our behaviors, we…

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Why You Should Consider Going Public With Your Relationship Status

Today many people place a great deal of importance on publicly disclosing their relationship status on the internet. However, others wonder why we should even care whether everyone knows the state of our relationships. While you may not necessarily need to profess your love for your partner by shouting it on the rooftops, there are…

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The Emotional Costs of Maintaining Contact With Exes

Are you stuck in an endless breakup? Having a heart in limbo is the price many of us pay when we decide to maintain contact with an ex. While we may think that keeping in touch will help us to avoid the stinging pain of a breakup, the truth is that the slow, painful goodbye…

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Are You Avoiding Defining Your Relationship

Is it time to have the DTR talk with a partner? The “define the relationship” talk has become a hot issue amid the rise of situationships and casual dating. Modern daters can easily grow quite intimate with another person without actually knowing if things are exclusive, just for fun, or something in the middle. While…

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The Technique to Instantly Stop Arguments in Your Relationship

I can’t stop recommending the “softened start-up” technique for communication to my clients! Based on the work of John Gottman, this incredible tool has helped so many clients to finally start communicating effectively with their partners. I find it to be effective, disarming, and perfect for addressing hard topics without feelings of emotional heaviness and…

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How Covert Narcissists Operate in Relationships

What does everyone need to know about narcissism and romantic relationships? The blanket term “narcissist” covers both covert and overt narcissists. As a therapist, I can tell you that the damage done by covert narcissists can often be more severe simply because connecting the signs can take longer. While you may feel that something is…

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“Single” Isn’t a Bad Word

Is there an upside to being single? You bet there is! While it’s easy to focus on the negatives of being unmatched, single life provides an opportunity for selfish, shameless self-focus! It’s a life state that should be savored. There’s some information I want to share with you if you’ve recently ended a relationship, decided…

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